My children have had a lot of consequences in their recent lives. Privileges have been taken away including Alexa usage, screen time, being able to play with their friends, no dessert, and being grounded. It's not fun as an adult to give a child a punishment, but it's a necessary part of parenting as you teach your child what is important, behavior-wise.
You know you're making the right choice if the consequence is one the child is particularly upset about. A punishment that they don't really care about means they're not learning the important lesson of not doing the particular behavior or actions again.
Grounding is the most recent option we've been using because both children really dislike having to stay in their rooms. Or at least initially they do.
We're trying to reward them as well when their behavior is positive, especially with respects to each other. Both my son and daughter got an unexpected reward for their good behavior last night. My son got to pick the dinner we would have, which was Chinese food. The rest of us got to reap the benefits of his reward in this case.
The Big Boy Update: My son told me today that he thought the no screen time on week days was a good thing, because he thought he was a nicer person when he wasn't on screens a lot. He is very right about that. He said he didn't understand why it was so. We don't understand it either.
The Tiny Girl Chronicles: My daughter got to go to the fair again today with her father. She was so happy to have some more time to eat the fair foods and mostly to ride the rides again in the early morning when there were few people around and no lines to speak of.
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