Tuesday, February 28, 2023
In Front of The Parents
Monday, February 27, 2023
Bipolar Bear
I'm not bipolar. I don't think I can even comprehend what it would be like to actually bipolar. I do have mood swings, but they're in the normal, "I'm so happy because we're having pancakes this morning." or "I'm so upset because I just broke the large planter, and there is dirt everywhere, and I think I've killed the plant." All the normal range of emotions that come with daily life.
A long time ago in college, I had a friend who talked about Bipolar Bear. I think it was a cartoon, but I've never seen it. I have a memory of her playing the role of Bipolar Bear, who wanted to go out and be a superhero. He wanted to be a superhero and save the day...only he couldn't get out of bed.
Sometimes I think about that when it gets to the wee hours of the night, and I look back at my day and think I got only twenty percent of the things I wanted to get done completed. I also think this because right about this time of night, I am so ready to go to bed.
The Tiny Girl Chronicles: My daughter went to school with ten fingers but came home with eleven. They are working on the human body, and they created a mockup of a finger with a piece of paper cut into a specific shape, a paperclip, some tape, and a string. You could pull on the string, and the finger curled up. My daughter loved it.
The Big Boy Update: We are allowing my son to play video games when he has friends in the house. It is giving him some social time he wasn't getting during COVID-19. Normally he doesn't have screens during the week, but since it's a social thing and they're all playing games together, it's been an exception we're glad to grant.
Sunday, February 26, 2023
Social Is Happening Again
Saturday, February 25, 2023
Home (and asleep)
Progress This Week?
Thursday, February 23, 2023
Scrabble and Geography
I have to run upstairs and play some games with the children before they go to bed.
First thought: after last night's rough dinner, the children were so wonderful today. We had the best breakfast since I can remember. They were just great.
My son: is amazing at creating complex games. The more countries they contain, the better. Same goes for rules.
My daughter: is amazing at Scrabble. She memorizes the board pretty much even though she can feel what's there in braille. She's going to be a very tough competitor in a very short time.
Wednesday, February 22, 2023
The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly Night
Last night was not a good night. And then it was. My son had suggested my daughter pick the dinner location since he got to pick earlier in the week. That was before he got carsick and felt bad during the drive home from school.
Some negotiations and a few hours later and we went to Jason's Deli. I said let's focus on tolerance tonight and have a nice meal together.
Guess what? It was not nice. At all. I tried to keep things under control. I don't want to say it was my son, but he was absolutely militant with what his sister should and shouldn't be doing. Don't touch them all! (she can't see, she is looking, not trying to be unsanitary). Don't eat this way, don't do this, do do that. She got up to get away from him, insisting she knew the way to get more drink—which she didn't, but she also had no concept of the child in the way, the other people in the drinks area and the salad bar she was going to run into and put her hands into the food in order to find her bearings. And none of that would have been good.
It got worse and people were looking at us. My daughter was mad now and my son was explaining how he was trying to help. Always doing a helpful thing, never being critical. He wanted to explain himself to death.
I got them in the car, cancelling frozen yogurt for dessert because I didn't want a second restaurant of people staring at us.
My daughter didn't want to get in the car, saying she needed a minute. When she got in and we got underway she had some advice, delivered in high drama voice intonation abut how we should all love and care for each other.
I said I agreed. At this point, I was screaming and telling my son to shut up, which was not a good thing to use word-wise as we've told the children it's not ever okay to say that. My son would not give it up. I had to lock him down because he couldn't not talk. Any words that came out of his mouth would be a day's loss of screens. If he wanted to talk he could raise his hand or tap me on the shoulder.
Let me tell you folks, that was some funny stuff. He was thrusting his hand in the air, tapping me on the shoulder and punching the car, which caused him to lose screens for a day when the punch happened.
I finally gave up. I said I was a failure that we had children who couldn't even go to dinner and be polite to each other. Dad always did things better. The family would be better without me. When dad got home, I would leave.
And...that...worked. That was the one thing they didn't want to one-up or fight back about. They both got scared and didn't want me to leave and suddenly were telling me how they knew all along what they were doing was bad. They wanted to do better. They didn't want to tell dad. Please don't leave. The guinea pigs need you. The dog needed me.
I said I would stay. Then, after all of that, we had a really wonderful night for the rest of the evening. We made it to a nice night, the path was just more complicated.
Tuesday, February 21, 2023
One Hundred Times Per Day (Times Two)
Did you know Guinea pigs have to eat continually, and their digestive system should never stop processing? Did you know as a result of this, Guinea pigs have very small bladders? So small that they have to urinate about every twenty minutes. This means that they typically don't like to be held for longer than fifteen minutes—because they don't want to go on you.
But wait, there's more. The other half of their waste management system is also constantly at work. It is so consistent and regular that they go while they're asleep without even knowing it happens. (They sleep with their eyes open too).
This means, on average, a Guinea pig poops one hundred times every day. I know; I am as shocked as you are. Or at least I was before having them as pets for a while. They are clean little creatures and don't like living in a mess, but we have caged them, so it's on us to make sure their home is liveable and comfortable.
I now have two long folding tables with corrugated plastic on top and a mesh grid in a two-foot by ten-foot formation. There is plenty of room for them to move around, and there is plenty of room for them to poop.
With two Guinea pigs that means two hundred little presents every day. Some days I couldn't believe it was that many. Some days I thought that number was way too low. And I know, I can't believe I did either, but they're little dry things and I just had to know.
At twenty hours into the day I was at 230, which means our little Guinea pigs are over-achievers. Or we feed them too much.
Of course, you need to know too. So here you go. Walnut for scale. I won't make this image big since the small version may be all most of you want to see.
Monday, February 20, 2023
Single Parents, Hats Off
I'm single-parenting this week. My husband is skiing with some of our friends. He loves skiing, and I'm glad he's had some opportunities to ski this winter. I'm at home with the children for the week. We're fine, and my husband was even so kind as to make us some roast and pasta. Even with my children older and taking care of themselves, I am always humbled by single parents who do this every day.
I have just been informed a Guinea pig has fallen so I'm going to go check to see if he's okay.
Dinner Out—That Everyone Agreed On!
The children and I went to dinner tonight after a non-confrontational day. No one got angry at anyone else for silly reasons. My daughter wanted to put on a dress for dinner and then insisted that she didn't need a jacket in fifty-three degree weather that her sleeveless dress would be just fine.
My son was very excited to be going to the Mongolian barbecue restaurant. My daughter, surprisingly, was too. When we got there she realized she was thinking the place where they cooked the food in front of you at your table, and the place where you picked out the ingredients and they cooked the food on a massive reverse wok.
She didn't like the restaurant for the last several times, but this time, after insisting she wasn't going to be able to eat without vomiting, I found the lemon pepper seasoning and she was happy. My son had a not too typical meal of mixed seafood with three eggs. He for some reason loves this. I don't even know what seaoning or sauces he uses. But he loves it.
The Big Boy update: My son said his favorite thing of the weekend was being woken up both on Saturday and Sunday with a Cheerio. My daughter brought the guinea pig to her brother and instead of being upset, he was extra happy.
The Tiny Girl Chronicles: My daughter has recently decided lemon pepper is the best seasoning ever. I talked to her today and said it was possibly about this age that I discovered how much I loved lemon pepper when Mimi would cook pork chops and use the lemon pepper seasoning. Add some gravy made with those two seasonings and drizzle them over white rice. Oh boy, now I'm hungry.
Saturday, February 18, 2023
The Long Run (of Guinea Pig Cage)
Thursday, February 16, 2023
1000 Days of School
Tuesday, February 14, 2023
It's V Day
Monday, February 13, 2023
Let Sleeping Husbands Lie
Sensory Symphony
Saturday, February 11, 2023
Challenge Accepted
Braille Challenge (Again)
Thursday, February 9, 2023
Asking For Money
Wednesday, February 8, 2023
HASMAT Suit
Tuesday, February 7, 2023
The Day After
Sunday, February 5, 2023
Happy Birthday to Ouch!
Dishwasher Directions
There is an unspoken order when it comes to dishwasher loading. It's not something I've ever talked about with anyone I've lived with. The expectation is you load the dishwasher up with dishes that aren't overly soiled and you place things in an arrangement that maximizes space utilization.
But is there a specific order the dishwasher must be filled up in? I noticed tonight that my husband puts cups up at the very back of the left side on the top drawer. I get to that area last when I'm loading a dishwasher as I start on the back right of the top rack and load right to left.
We meet in the middle, so it doesn't seem to matter much, but I find it interesting nonetheless.
The Angry Son: My son was livid and screaming. He was so angry he was screaming saying he wasn't screaming. It went on and on and on. I had an idea. I went upstairs and got Cheerio. When I came downstairs I handed him over and my son immediately calmed down. Cheerio has that way about him; you can't be sad when he's in your lap.
The Absent Daughter: I care home after two hours out. I went to go check if the guinea pigs were still in their play pen so I could put them up. Kix was there but Cheerio was nowhere to be found. I went to see where my daughter had taken him because she was cuddling with him in her room before we had left. I couldn't find her and just happened to be cleaning up her bed. I moved the blanked and there Cheerio was, sleeping under her covers. When I told her she sucked in her breath and was upset at herself. The doorbell had rang and then the dog got out at that point and was hard to get in. When things normalized, she completely forgot she had Cheerio up in her bed. He was happy and fine just sleeping under the covers.
Saturday, February 4, 2023
Shoes
Friday, February 3, 2023
Precision In Time
Thursday, February 2, 2023
Tile!
Wow, there is a lot of tile in a single tile store. Today was house day. This is reminiscent of the last house we built (the one I'm in as I write this). But more complex. With our current house there was a timeline that was managed by our builder. We made the selections, but it was done in an order that made things easier.
This time we are making every single decision. There is a lot to be decided and there is an ordering that is unknown. Do we need to pick countertops before cabinet colors? Or what about flooring, when do we need to decide on tile and what about hinges and knobs and...gah, it's overwhelming.
With this house we were told very, very early on that we had to pick hinge colors. This would set the tone for the entire house. What hinges? The door hinges. The doors and the windows would come with hardware to match our selection, and windows needed to be ordered very early because they come in right after framing is done and doors are made with the hinges on at the factory. So decide now and for the rest of the house, you're stuck with brushed nickel, for instance.
We picked the doors and then the door frames and then the cabinets, which set colors for things. After that we picked out countertops. When we went to pick out tiles, we had made a lot of the decisions beforehand so all we had to do was pick tiles that worked well with our other selections.
That happened until we moved in. This time, we're looking at everything out of order so we can start to hone in on "what our style is." Which is going to be interesting to find out, because we don't even know the answer to that ourselves.
The Tiny Girl Chronicles: My daughter, upon hearing we were going to look at tile today was very upset because she had been with us for the last tour of appliances as she was out of school. Cheryl and Lindsay had some tiles they thought she would like because they were tactile. And she loved them. They told her she could come to a real tile store and look at all the tiles and so she thought she was missing out today. I was told to tell her they absolutely were not talking about her tile today and that she would have her own chance to pick out tiles herself. I hadn't thought about including the children, but they're old enough, they should be able to pick out something they like.
The Big Boy Update: My son may have zero interest in picking out anything for his room. He has given The Grandparent Free Zone, as he's calling it, his blessing. It's a little loft space up a little set of steep stairs and he thinks the grandparents aren't going to find him up there. I know grandparents though, if they need to track him down, they'll know exactly where he's hiding.